most of us are but also aware that it is unrealistic, to expect only happiness from life, as life also means struggle, demands, disappointments and conflict.
But at least life should leave us sound!
That is what we wish for ourselves, for our children and friends.
What but happens if it comes differently?
Everyone human being wishes to lead a happy life; most of us are but also aware that it is unrealistic, to expect only happiness in life, as life also means struggle, demands to fulfil, disappointments and conflict. But at least life should leave us sound and unharmed! That is what we wish for ourselves, for our children and friends. What but happens if it all comes differently?
When something in our life happens that we did not expect, that is so tough that we cannot grasp and understand it, something that shakes the hitherto natural soundness of our life, then such events are for us an experience of a trauma. A trauma experience which can even with the best of our efforts not be dealt with so easily. The gap between what happened, the effect on our life and our own resources to deal with that, do not match up. Instead we experience metaphorically a crack through the soul, which disturbs life massively and on a profound level. The situation we were in, or we are in, leaves long term imprints in the soul and in the body.
Case story 1: My own story (Edeltraud Grace) I was 25 years old and lived with my husband in a beautiful Alpine settlement 800 m above sea level in the Austrian Alps, surrounded by forests and stunning snow covered Mountain peaks. At that time of our stay there, I was trained in all aspects of the hospitality industry. One of the things I "loved" on my day off (my free time was usually different to my husband's day off), was to go for long walks into the beautiful forests surrounding the settlement or walking and climbing the high mountain areas nearby. While doing what I loved, I never had a care in the world. Was never scared, never worried, I was feeling one with nature, walking and enjoying the beauty surrounding me and on my walks I was happily greeting whoever I met on these mountain paths. Men or women.
One foggy late autumn afternoon I again decided to take a long stroll into dense forest. I walked through the beautiful Alpine settlement, not seeing a single soul about, as it was that time in the year between low and high season. We did not have a lot of guests, due to the foggy and rainy weather that week. As such I knew everyone who was living on that high plateau and everyone knew me. (About 150 people)
I entered the pine forest, with joy breathed in the fresh air and embraced my walk on the soft earth of the path. All of a sudden I had a weird inner feeling. Something told me to not enter the forest today.
My first thought to that hunch was, "oh I should not had watched that crime movie yesterday evening" and thought that the feeling was triggered by memories of that movie and I decided to ignore the weird feelings and simply continued on my walk. The sensation of something being "wrong" but did not go away. It got even more intense.............It was as if the forest was talking to me, asking me to turn around and go back into the settlement, but I ignored my intuitive perceptions and continued on. Deeper and deeper into the forest. I knew that path as I walked it hundreds of times. I was a nature girl, happiest surrounded by trees and flowers and mountains and now I would soon enter an area where, should I be attacked from a stranger with bad intentions (which was but completely non existent in my mind that anything like that could ever happen to me in this forest), I would had no way to escape.
I turned around a corner walking towards a very narrow section of that pathway, when all of a sudden, a burning pain in my solar plexus made me stop. Out of the blue I got the sensation of someone, some living beings I could not see were screaming at me to hide behind a bush to the left. "Hide, hide now". Totally mistrusting these intuitions, but thinking I am crazy, but too shaken at the same time as these sensations were too obvious and strong, I just stood still, when I got a sensation as if someone was stabbing me and I turned around looked backwards on the path to where that pain came from and from where I was just coming from and I got the energy impression of something big, gruesome and horrendous coming towards me. Suddenly I SAW with my finer eyes little earth gnomes guiding me to that bush, making very nervous movements. (Yes I could suddenly SEE them) I started to move towards that bush, .........but it was too late. ....There came this tall man around the corner and we faced each other. His face was unnaturally pale, he was dressed in a beige suit, elegant but not suited for a forest walk. I saw his eyes and I knew in that very single moment, this man was following me already the whole time and his intentions were to physically harm me.
I also knew in a split second, if I now start to run away deeper into the forest, the man will catch me and I had no chance against this big, muscular person. So I stood still and so did that man, looking towards me. What a strange situation. I started to pray while this man moved all of a sudden to the side of the path searching on the forest floor for a stick or big stone. He made a lot of noise. I prayed for help, saying something like that. "You who gave me these impressions, you wanted to warn me all the time, I beg you to help me now." In that moment I saw myself in a split second on a cross-road, which meant either life or death on that day. I knew deep in my heart, more certain than anything, that it might be either my last day on earth or I would continue to live, if....................I did the right thing. I knew that the right thing was to "trust" what these helpers that I felt around me asked me to do now.
I had a strong intuition guiding me to walk "towards" that man instead of running away from him, and a strong, calm, reassuring inner voice kept on warning me, guiding me with a severe and loud description, "Slowly walk TOWARDS this man, NOW. Don't look into his eyes, and I repeat: don't look into his eyes. When you have passed the man, run for your life."
I did, with all the trust I could gather, suppress my immense fear, and walked calmly towards this man while only focusing and concentrating on the Help I felt was around me. There was as if there was a WALL OF LIGHT surrounding me.
The guy stood there with the stick in his hands, but it appeared as if he was unable to move, perhaps he was so utterly surprised that I calmly walked towards him, he did not expect that, .............that it startled him. I passed him and then I started to run. I did run and continued to run for 20 minutes and did not look back as I felt if I turn my head and see him following me, the fear I would feel, would weaken me and I would not be able to run so quick. I do need to mention that I was a fit young women, but indeed I was not someone who would be able to win in a fight with a muscular man. I did run to the settlement into my workplace and there was one of my co-workers doing some cleaning in the foyer where I entered and she looked at me in shock, asking me what on earth has happened to me, as I was shaking so much, so I told her what happened. I was allowed a day off the other day, after I got interviewed by management.
Others were informed, also the police, women from that day on were advised not to walk anymore alone in the forest until more was known. But that man was never seen again on the Mountain.
Life in the settlement got back to normal, but my own life has changed on that day forever. From feeling free to enjoy nature on my own terms, worry-free, happily walking into deep forests and high mountains alone, I turned into a completely different person. This experience had a deep impact on me for many years to come. I would stop going for my lonely walks. My way to relax and recuperate was gone at the same time. Whenever I passed that area where I have met that man in the forest, while walking with a coworker in rare occasions, I had symptoms of a panic attack. These symptoms around this specific location only subsided after around 10 years. I did therapy much later on, when the impact of the trauma fully left my energy field then. Although I gained also a lot of understanding about the workings of the helping beings, and that we are never alone, that we are protected when listening to our inner voice, the sense of being vulnerable in lone forest walks, never left me from that day.
Here I want to share with you some of the experiences my clients shared with me.
The following are actually true stories from my own psychotherapeutic clients. When listening to these experiences for the first time, I was shocked myself and understood that this must had been a life changing, shocking impact on these people.
-This is the story a 45 year old client shared with me. She was the first girl he moved in together. Both of them were in their start 20is . They enjoyed each others companies, said "I love you" to each other. One evening he came home from work an hour earlier than usual. He found his girlfriend, whom he trusted with not a worry in the world, in bed with her former boyfriend. .............His life would never be the same again and 25 years later he was still not able trust his partners. He never was married and had a hard time to commit.
-Here another story explained to me by an older 59 year old woman in her first session she had with me.
Kathy was 5 years old. Her older sister was just diagnosed with a serious disease and both of her parents focused their attention on the older sister and had hardly any time left for Kathy. Her young uncle took on the parenting role. She loved and trusted him more than anyone in the world. She felt safe and looked after by him. Additionally he handsome and quirky. They laughed a lot with each other and she was happy to be not alone when her parents were at hospital. One afternoon she was with him in the house as he looked after her, while her parents visited her sister in hospital. They were playing hide and seek, when he suddenly did hid in the bed under the blankets. When she found him he asked her to come to him under the blanket. She was laughing and thought he was playing a game, when he touched her indecently and then raped her. More than 50 years later the woman turned up in my office, she was still thinking each and every single day on this one rape experience with her uncle. She was never in a relationship, never married, had problems in the physical location of the rape that never could heal. One could literally say most of her life was lost to reliving and occupying herself daily with that trauma. ............(Just for your information that this ladies life turned out better after she came to me for several EFT sessions combined with other Energy healing methods, NLP and Psychotherapy. I am glad for her.)
- Here is another similar story. This client I have known for a long time as a family friend of ours, until she overcome her fears and presented to a therapy session in order to solve a specific problematic issue. By the way, is the mother of a beautiful girl now.
Here is her story. 4 year old Elena is accompanying her parents to visit family friends. The man of the house takes her into his office and asks her to sit on his lap. He is telling her a fairy-tale story when he starts to touch her indecently. She jumps up and tries to find her parents, but they were out of the house. The man told her to keep quiet about what just happened. When the parents came she was too afraid to talk about his actions but when they came home she told her mum who simply did not believe her. She said this cannot be. They take her again to the same friends. It happens again, and again and again. Also her sister is getting molested. Both of them are telling the parents and asking the parents not to take them to that place again, but both parents do not want to believe what happens. Only years later her mother starts to make further investigations. She finds out that also other children were molested. Nevertheless as that so called friend has become the business partner of her husband, all is pushed under the carpet. Elena never had the opportunity to resolve that trauma with the help of an adult. 35 years later she comes to counselling, as she has problems in enjoying intimacy with her husband whom she loves very much. They want children but "for some reason" she just feels numb in her reproductive organs and she is not getting pregnant although they try since years and also now started IVF at the time when she presented that story to me.
- This story a client shared with me I found quite tragic. She came to me for ongoing anxiety and fear. Here is her story: Marie was 12 years old, when she came home after school. Her mum was in the kitchen, smiling at her, preparing dinner. All of a sudden her mum, in front of her eyes had a weird expression in her face, and then she did hold her hands on her heart, fell on the floor and died in front of her. Marie called her sister and father who then called an ambulance, but it was too late. Although her father and other relatives looked very well after her and also her sister was ab amazing help, after her mothers passing, since this day, Marie suffers under anxiety and panic attacks. She feels nothing in life is safe anymore and she is scared of disease. Now she is 25 and she finds it hard to cope with many things other people find easy to cope with. Due to Therapy her condition changed for the better.
There were many more stories I heard from clients, but you get the point dear reader.
Nothing in life is the same anymore
When we experience such things in our life, our understanding about the world and reality is unsettled. Whenever we come in similar situations, the old feelings of anxiety, horror, shame or fear get triggered and raise up again. The feelings of being carefree and happy are gone. Perceptions of reality change, feelings of fear, grief, feelings of insecurity and sleep disturbances are common. In an acute state the person experiences a sense of "dissociation" with different forms of disturbances in their consciousness. Memory loss, loss of their identity, loss of feelings and perceptions and having difficulties in being able to control body movements, all these are often occurring reactions to trauma.
Often people then say: "I am not myself anymore." Other people appear speechless, absentminded and frozen.
If such a severe reaction does not ease in the frame of 4 weeks, we are talking about a Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Also strong, healthy and usually very well functioning people can experience PTSD and this just mentioned reaction of a person's soul has nothing to do with a personal weakness.
In 70 percent of cases these reactions ease in the frame of a few months, by itself, perhaps with the help from family and friends but without professional help and drugs. Luckily trauma does not always lead to PTSD. But often after such a traumatic experience, remnants of anxiety show up in the soul as chronic insecurity, grief, anxiety, occurring phobias or irritability and lead sometimes later to depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, addictions and embitterment how this was researched when observing extreme cases of PTSD in war veterans.
Heavy surgical procedures, long rehabilitation periods with agonizing pain, but also difficult births can lead to a so called hospital trauma, which is perceived by the individual as having been manipulated and a loss of control and even not been seen as a feeling human being anymore, but only a number.
The witness of a serious trauma at an accident for example, who himself was not threatened but he was only a witness can later on, due to the impressions also suffer under Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. A lot of people who work in the protecting and helping professions like police or ambulance workers, firemen, Counsellors and Psychotherapists etc. who are exposed very often to traumatic experiences, likely experience in their life at some point symptoms of PTSD. Also train drivers who quite often come across deaths through suicide, can experience a form of secondary trauma.
Also suicide in the family gives relatives, friends and helpers a shock which lies heavily for a long time on the hearts and souls of all involved. I remember a client whose brother committed suicide and let her to life long profound problems as she was unable to digest it. It took many therapy sessions to help her feel freer again.
Also children who witness a difficult divorce of their parents, or violence and abuse in the home can develop typical PTSD symptoms. In my own practice PTSD symptoms that developed during a divorce situation led to symptoms of anorexia. The good thing is that despite help from 5 different doctors, that girl was able to heal after 3 BioMagnetic Healing with Hands sessions and you can find the reviews from her father on my What people say, page. Scroll further down for that. Her father also recorded a little youtube video in order to share that.
Sometimes traumas can be so burdening to a person that years later s/he has "flashbacks". This means repeating, disturbing memories that flash up in images accompanied by the bad feelings. They can be trigged with similar, random impressions, like the same time of year, a certain sound or smell, an object that was also there at the time of trauma etc. and that can trigger the flashback.
Also difficult experiences in childhood can years later come to the awareness in the form of sudden unexplainable feelings of the soul. Often this does not happen with conscious memories, but with emotional reactions, like irrational panic, grief, nervous tension, anger, self-reproach or unexplainable feelings of guilt. For the people experiencing such things it is an especially unpleasant and deeply anxious state, as the origins of the feelings do lie in the dark.
A trauma will make itself known to the soul, if the soul is ready to deal with it
Based on trauma research it is not necessary to bring a trauma artificially to the surface as long as the trauma does not show any disturbing emotional effects in the present time. Perhaps a soul has already dealt with that trauma on an unconscious level and one can calmly trust that a trauma, if it is not dealt with, will make itself known if it is time to deal with it. This is in most cases then happening when the soul is ready to deal with that theme of the trauma, which is then significant for his/her present life.
Traumatic experiences search in their own time for a conclusion and resolve and therefore will press to the surface with appropriate feelings and perceptions that long and urge for a conflict resolution. Then one has to face such a process of conflict resolution in order to let go of the experience while being strengthened with new recognition by it.
A trauma that is suppressed with a lot of effort, binds life energy to it that will be not available for the body and finer levels of a human being and this can eventually lead to severe illnesses of soul and body.
When we are ready to face a trauma, then we can benefit to work with someone who accompanies us on that path.
Please read about the benefits to integrate BioMagnetic Healing with Hands according to Virtuosity in the frame of Counselling.
Also EFT is widely used to help patients all over the world to release the effects of deeply traumatic experiences. Read here about EFT.
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