Choosing a Bach Flower remedy for typical children's symptoms
Bach Flower remedies are a complete healing system of 38 flower essences which are chosen in accordance with the child`s or young person`s personality, moods and emotions. The Bach Flower Remedies gently re-establish inner equilibrium which has been altered due to stressful situations. If your teenager or child is upset, unsettled or unwell, you need to look at why. How are they feeling? Has something or someone upset them? Children and teenagers especially need to be able to live in happiness and freedom so that they can lead a fulfilling and rewarding life instead of having to carry unresolved emotional troubles into their adulthood.
The following descriptions will help you choose the right Bach Flowers for your child. Should you wish to have a Bach Flower Consultation from a trained and accredited Bach Flower Therapist we also offer email consultations. For this please send me an email with a photo of your child's face and full body photo (fully clothed) as well as information about the current situation and history.
- What has happened?
- How is it affecting the child?
- Emotions surrounding the situation.
- Personality description, temperament, attitude.
- Tell as much as you can about your child's life and feelings.
Then I will send you the Remedy mix via post.
The consultation inclusive Remedy mix does cost $65 and includes additional information and help that you will find useful for the Bach Flower Remedy healing process.
Below are the description of the flower essences.
Flower Essence: Symptom Description and positive result:
Agrimony General: Put on a cheerful face to hide problems.
What kids say: I`m always looking for friends. I pretend to be very happy, but then I bite my fingernails or eat snack foods in secret. Maybe I don`t feel truly accepted, so I play the part of the clown.
Positive Agrimony: I am at peace with myself. I show others who I really am. I am honest with myself and others. I hold on and resist when I am in conflict.
Aspen General: Have unexplained fears and worries, are nervous and anxious.
What kids say: I have these strange fears- night-time, darkness, death. It´s hard for me to fall asleep and sometimes I have terrible nightmares. I feel anxious and I don´t know why.
Positive Aspen: I have all the courage I need. I open myself to the experience of life. I confront the future with inner strength. I know that my world is a safe place. I am ready for fun and adventure.
Beech General: Are critical and intolerant of others.
What kids say: The other children say I`m a pain in the neck. Well, I`m a little critical, but I take things seriously and I wish that all the others were like me. It´s true: I`m not tolerant. I always see the errors of others, so they avoid me!
Positive Beech: I create well-being. I accept diversity in others. I see the basic beauty in every being. I relinquish my feelings of judgement. I am gentle and kind with myself and others.
Centaury General: Have difficulty in saying no and are anxious to please.
What kids say: I feel like Cinderella! I never know how to say no and I always end up doing whatever the others have decided I should do. Sometimes I even take on extra tasks.
Positive Centaury: I satisfy my own needs. I am honest with myself. I am responsible for my life. I stand on my own two feet. I value my strength of will.
Cerato General: Doubt your own ability to judge situations.
What kids say: I`m always asking advice from the others. I can´t manage to decide for myself because I don´t trust myself. I want to fit in and have the same things that everyone else has, even if I don´t like them. Sometimes I copy the way my friends dress and talk.
Positive Cerato: I trust my own opinions. I know what is right for me. I believe in my instincts. I respect myself greatly. I dare to follow my intuitions.
Cherry Plum General: Fear losing control, are in a state of deep despair.
What kids say: I don´t tell anyone, but at times I have the most terrible thoughts; I feel like I`m sitting on a bomb that`s about to explode. I try to control myself, but at times I fly off the handle and just wish everyone would disappear. How I frighten myself!
Positive Cherry Plum: I remain strong under great stress. I am calm and courageous. I choose to be balanced and stable on every occasion. I am as strong as a rock. I do what is right.
Chestnut Bud General: Fail to learn from experience, repeating the same mistakes.
What kids say: How tiring school is. I make the same mistakes over and over. I feel like I study but nothing sticks. I don´t understand things. I must be slow. And now that I think about it, it´s not just in school: I always trip over the same old rock; I always buy clothes that I never put on.
Positive Chestnut Bud: I learn something new with everything I do. My past is a source of energy an strength. I observe and learn from others. I see things as they really are. I learn from my mistakes.
Chicory General: Are overly possessive, expect others to conform to your values.
What kids say: I like little children so much- I like to mother them. Even when I was little I was always the teacher. I have so much to give! Naturally, I expect some gratitude in return. And my friend ( if she is my friend) makes me feel very jealous when she does certain things; she should pay attention to me, right?
Positive Chicory: I love unconditionally. I respect the independence of others. I am worthy of everyone´s love. I receive all the attention I need. I give without thought of return.
Clematis General: Day-dream and Generally have a lack of interest in the present.
What kids say: "Where in the world are you?" people ask me. And it`s true that I`m off in the clouds a lot. I get distracted, I lose things, forget things. I like to dream, to draw and paint, to fantasize- but then I find out I`m late for school, and not only that, I`ve brought the wrong books!
Positive Clematis: I am here now. I am present in all I do. I live well every moment. I carry my projects through to the end. My feet are firmly planted on earth.
Crab Apple General: Have a poor self-image, are ashamed or embarrassed by unpleasant physical symptoms, characteristics or features.
What kids say: I`m always washing myself. I have a horror of germs, bacteria, and bad smells, and I never use the bathroom at school! I like everything neat and orderly, I like my clothes to be super clean, and as for my body-well, it`s kind of embarrassing. I dress in things like overalls that don`t show my shape, but what when I become a young adult? Won´t it be disgusting?
Positive Crab Apple: I free myself from every addiction. I deserve perfect health. I treat myself with interest and tenderness. I encourage my body to heal. I love myself
Elm General: Feel overwhelmed or burdened by responsibility.
What kids say: I don´t know why, but I just can´t seem to make it anymore. Dance class on Thursday, swimming on Monday and Saturday, and all my homework, too! And I wanted to direct the theatre group.....Now exams are coming up- what will I do? Help!
Positive Elm: I have total faith. I release the need for perfection. I am only responsible for what I choose to do. I have all the help I need. I let go of having to do it all myself.
Gentian General: Are easily discouraged, hesitant and despondent.
What kids say: Things always turn out badly for me, and then I`m disillusioned! My kitten is sick, and my grades at school are the worst- there`s no way for me to be happy. And I can`t do anything about it.
Positive Gentian: I continue in trust to do what is right. I know my every experience to be a valid lesson. I create my own reality. I believe in ultimate success. I am determined to persevere.
Gorse General: Feel hopeless and despair, and are pessimistic.
What kids say: I have no hope! Don`t you see what`s happened to me? I can only live in despair, there`s nothing else left for me- it`s the end.
Positive Gorse: I have faith in life itself. I choose to be an optimist. I believe in myself. I have experience and faith in the future. I look on the Positive side.
Heather General: Are self-absorbed, dislike being alone, and are excessively talkative.
What kids say: Do they say I talk about myself too much? How can they? As soon as I start to speak, they go away! Sure, I want to be the centre of attention. I want to be cuddled and understood, and if I`m not, I`m unhappy!
Positive Heather: I take care of all my own needs. I am a willing listener. I am always ready to help others. I love to spend time by myself. I relinquish the constant need for help.
Holly General: Have feelings of extreme jealousy, are envious and suspicious.
What kids say: I`m mad, as I can be. You love my brother more than you love me. I envy my friends, who are all so much luckier than I am. Sure I have it in for people!
Positive Holly: I am one with the world. I open my heart to others. I radiate love, joy, and happiness. I am glad to see the successes of others. I deserve other people`s love.
Honeysuckle General: Live in the past, feeling homesick of nostalgic.
What kids say: I don`t like to leave the house, and I`m so homesick for my old school! I don´t want to go to the seashore without my mommy.
Positive Honeysuckle: I relinquish old memories that hold me back. I come from my past and look forward to my future. I live in the fullness of the present. I plunge myself into life. I welcome the future.
Hornbeam General: Get the "Monday morning" feeling, doubting the ability to face the day`s work.
What kids say: What a heavy head! Maybe I watched too much TV or cranked my headphones up too high. And then there are mornings when I get up and think, How in the world will I manage it all?
Positive Hornbeam: I have all the energy I need. I am strong and complete. I live my life without stress. I am fresh and awake. I take hold of life as I wish.
Impatiens General: Are impatient and easily irritated.
What kids say: Goodness me, my friends are so slow, there`s nothing to be done with them! I`m fast, very fast; I do a million things, one right after the other. So, once in a while I fall down or bump into things or feel a little scattered- but I`m fast!
Positive Impatiens: I have patience and understanding. I have all the time I need. I find time to appreciate others. I live my life gently and calmly. I take what I choose with tranquillity.
Larch General: It`s useless to try. I`ll just never manage. I`m not like the others; I know from the start that things will go badly. Things never work out for me, so why should I even try? I`m sure that tomorrow I`ll make a mess of that essay, as always.
Positive Larch: I act with complete confidence. I always expect a successful outcome. I am excited by every new challenge. I act with courage and determination. I express myself in a creative way.
Mimulus General: Have a fear rooted in known causes i.e. spiders, flying, death.
What kids say: I feel so shy and I`m afraid of so many things! I get sick a lot and loud noises scare me. I`m allergic to flowers and all kinds of animals, and sometimes I have trouble breathing.
Positive Mimulus: I act with courage and inner strength. I recognize every difficulty as an opportunity. I face every challenge with a sense of humour. The world is my oyster. I can do anything I desire.
Mustard General: Experience unexplained deep gloom.
What kids say: I`m shy, a little ashamed, and embarrassed; sometimes I blush. I don´t talk very much. I`m afraid of cats and terrified of the elevator. I don`t know why I`m so sad. What do you want me to do? I just don`t know! I feel wrapped up in a big black cloud; I cry and can`t do anything about it. It`s awful!
Positive Mustard: I am a source of light and strength. I have serenity and peace of mind. My heart is singing. I regain my joy and radiance.
Oak General: Are driven by strong sense of duty, and struggle on although exhausted.
What kids say: I`m tired but duty is sacred. I have to do it all just as well as I can, even if I get no rest. It`s true that I take on other`s people`s jobs, but someone has to think of these things, and I`m strong enough to do it.
Positive Oak: I always let myself rest when I need to. My rest is profound. I am open and spontaneous. I give up struggling so hard.
Olive General: Feel exhausted in body and mind.
What kids say: I`m exhausted; I have no energy at all. I`ve been sick and have had a hard time of it. It`s as though my batteries need to be recharged.
Positive Olive: I use my energy in the best possible way. I acknowledge my needs. I reclaim my will and my strength. I recognize my priorities in giving to others.
Pine General: Feel full of guilt and blame yourself for other people`s mistakes.
What kids say: I fell inferior and inadequate, as if I don`t deserve what everyone else does. I`m always saying, "I`m sorry," because I fell like I`m a bother. I even take the blame for other people´s faults.
Positive Pine: I relinquish remorse and self-blame. I take responsibility for everything I do. I forgive myself for feeling unworthy. I have always done my best. I am already wholly good. I accept and approve of myself.
Red Chestnut General: Are over-anxious or over-concerned for others.
What kids say: Why in the world is Daddy so late? Do you think he could have been in an accident? The two of you will never leave me, will you? What--you have to take a blood test? Is it serious? Are you really ill?
Positive red Chestnut: I radiate peace and tranquillity. I do not take in the problems of others. I maintain my own psychic space. I look forward to Positive outcomes. I send calm thoughts of love to those who need them.
Rescue Remedy General: Are in a demanding or stressful situation. It is a combination of 5 of the 38 flower remedies; Star of Bethlehem; Rock Rose; Impatiens; Clematis; and Cherry Plum. Kids: Tantrums, colic, grief, shock. Gives courage, reassures, relaxes, enables clear thinking, calms, neutralises shock.
Rock Rose General: Have experienced terror, have been frozen in fear and feel helpless.
What kids say: What a panic, tomorrow`s the dentist! What terror, it`s almost exam time! I`ve seen something terrible, and my poor nerves are shattered.
Positive Rock rose: My spirit lives. I am ready for anything. I have an unshakeable courage in crisis. I am in touch with my own intrinsic power.
Rock Water General: Are inflexible, setting yourself very high standards.
What kids say: I just don`t understand the way some people act. There are ironclad rules to follow, even in eating. If everybody behaved like me, the world would function much better. I`m a role model;
Positive: I know how to make sacrifices!
Scleranthus General: Suffer from indecision.
What kids say: I'm always undecided about things. I never know which is the right choice. I have sudden changes of mood, and I never know whether I`m going to laugh or cry.
Positive Scleranthus: I know what is right for me. I think clearly and make choices easily. I act on my decisions confidently. I am clear and coherent.
Star of Bethlehem General: Have experienced shock, grief or a fright.
What kids say: What a terror---I`m still shaken! When I was little, something very traumatic happened to me, and I feel like I`m still there, like it`s still going on.
Positive Star of Bethlehem: I have recovered from the traumas of the past. I am tranquil and calm. I have inner peace. My energy flows smoothly.
Sweet Chestnut General: Are at the limits of endurance and in deep despair.
What kids say: I`m consumed by despair and by anguish. Everyone has abandoned me, I have no hope, I live in a black hole…what can I do?
Positive Sweet Chestnut: I believe in life itself. I ask for all the help I need. I emerge from the darkness and walk in the light. I open myself to changes and growth.
Vervain General: Are over-enthusiastic, argumentative with fixed principles and ideas.
What kids say: I have so many great ideas, and I do a lot of good, I think. I really want my friends to understand and follow my initiative, but no matter how hard I try, I can`t always convince them.
Positive Vervain: I live my life without strain. I am relaxed, open, and balanced. I am moderate in action and thought. I am tolerant of other's opinions. I am free and spontaneous. I achieve my results through kindness and tranquillity.
Vine General: Are strong-willed with a tendency to be domineering or inflexible.
What kids say: I`m the boss: Everyone had better do as I say. I know how to direct operations, and if necessary, I can be pretty severe!
Positive Vine: I believe in the strength of my example. I respect the rights of others. I believe in myself and in others. I encourage others to become powerful and strong. I am sensitive and compassionate.
Walnut General: Face major life changes and are in need of protection from the influences of others.
What kids say: I`m moving to a new house and changing schools, too. I`m not a little kid anymore; I`m turning into a young adult. All this change is so hard!
Positive Walnut: I free myself from all negative influence. I follow my inner guide. I am ready for change. I allow the fulfilment of my potential.
Water Violet General: Prefer to be alone and are proud and aloof.
What kids say: Why should I hang around with those kids? They`re worthless next to me! They say I`m stuck up, but they always ask my advice. I`m nice, I listen to them, but I`d never ask them for anything. It would be useless, and actually I prefer it this way. Positive Water Violet: I love to be with other people. I open myself to give and receive. I can have warm, close, and affectionate relationships. I share my thoughts, visions, and dreams. I express my love freely for others.
White Chestnut General: Have unwanted thoughts, preoccupations and worries.
What kids say: It feels like my head is always filled to bursting. I can`t seem to relax because I can`t get away from these fixed thoughts. It`s not like I ask for them; they just appear and there`s not a thing I can do about them. Positive White Chestnut: I am calm an serene. I walk in peace and tranquillity. Answers emerge from the serenity of my mind. I am at peace with myself. I develop and honour my intuitions.
Wild Oat General: Are uncertain as to the correct path in life, dissatisfied with your current lifestyle, and can`t decide which path to follow.
What kids say: What will I do when I get out of school? Good heavens, who knows? Yes, there are things that I`m good at, but it´s so difficult to choose. It`s not that nothing satisfies me; it`s just that I`m so uncertain.
Wild Oat positive: Now I know what I want.
Wild Rose General: Make little effort to improve situations, are apathetic.
What kids say: What a drag! I mean, what am I supposed to be doing? I watch television, take a nap or two, but I don`t seem to want to do much of anything, really, I`m tired, everything`s such a bore. Oh well, what can you do? Positive Wild Rose: I enjoy an intense interest in life. Everything I do, I do with enthusiasm. I am bursting with vitality. I have an adventurous and joyful spirit.
Willow General: Are resentful and have feelings of self-pity, "poor me".
What kids say: Everything bad happens to me, I`m the unluckiest person in the world. Everyone else is having such a good time, but they`ll find our how it is someday, and I`ll be glad of it! Then they`ll know how it feels to be me---miserable, misunderstood, and unlucky.
Positive Willow: I forgive others as I forgive myself. I relinquish blame and bitterness. I see things in their true perspective. I assume responsibility for my relationships. I see the best in everyone. I give support unconditionally.
Specific Areas where Bach Flower Remedies are very beneficial for children:
Examples of situations:
Social, Homework, ADHD and other learning difficulties, social dynamics, bullying-victim and perpetrator, exams
Child-Family Bedwetting, sibling rivalry, new baby, parent/child dynamics, adoption, sleeping pattern.
Developmental stages Toilet training, teething, puberty, leaving home, childhood illnesses, nightmares.
Teenagers Teenage suicide, depression, eating disorders, puberty, self-esteem, peer-pressure, career- choice, exam stress.
Bach Flower Therapy is a healing process, which is very effective but therefore does require repeat or new mixes as the emotions are transformed and "move off".
Please note: The Bach Flower remedies are safe, simple and they have no side-effects. They are non-addictive, you cannot overdose, and can be safely used with other medication.
Choose any remedies where the statement seems to match the way your child feels,
but if you choose more than seven, take out any that are less important to your child's situation.
In addition to the Bach Flower remedy mixtures:
Dr Bach created an emergency combination containing five flower remedies -
Impatiens, Star of Bethlehem, Cherry Plum, Rock rose and Clematis. Rescue Remedy is very suited for use with children.
Rescue Remedy can be used to help cope with immediate everyday situations such as the first day of school, exams, going to the dentist, upsetting situations, big events etc. Rescue Cream
How to take the Bach Flower remedies:
- Dilute two drops in a glass of water and sip at intervals. Refill the glass as often as you need.
- For long term use, take four drops, a minimum of four times a day.
- If necessary, the Bach Flower remedies can be dropped neat onto the tongue, or rubbed onto the lips, behind the ears or on the temples and wrists.
How often or for how long you take the Bach Flower remedies depends on your child. If the mood is just fleeting or the child is just in a bit of a crisis you may only need one dose, but if the child has been feeling the same for some time, it can take the chosen remedy or remedies for as long as you need to.
Please send the names of the chosen Remedies via our contact form and we will respond to you that we have received your order as soon as possible. Please pay for the mix in your shop and we will send you the remedy on the next business day.
Hi Edel. How are you. Just want to let you know today Felicia just started school n told me while sharing story in the group /class she didn't feel nervous as usual. It's definitely showing improvement & I am impressed as she has never told me about it b4. Thanks for your help and support.
(The child received a Bach Flower Remedy mix of Mimulus, Gorse and White Chestnut. By the way the child is still doing very well. I received another feedback one year later, the mum letting me know that Felicia's anxieties disappeared. She does not cut herself anymore and she feels much happier and more confident then ever before.)