Inner conflicts have many detrimental effects on our physical and emotional health- here I give you some ideas how you can solve them yourself.
Whenever I feel overburdened with a conflict I experience, I start to either paint a picture or conduct a self healing session with myself, either Therapeutic Magnetism or EFT. The paintings on such a day show the world of the unconscious, being effected by conflict. Destructive tendencies can be reflected by symbols or colour. To develop as a human being does usually not go without conflicts. Our unconscious can be even sometimes overcrowded by them. Conflicts as such are nothing bad as they are actually an expression that we are going through a learning experience. For example. if a child touches a hotplate, it will be more careful next time and not touch it again. In so far are inner conflicts a result of some trauma, which lets us be more careful the next time and serves as a protective function in our life. These experiences also give our personality a certain structure, and they help us to mature as human beings. On the downside can inner unresolved conflicts, if not dealt with them properly, lead to a walling in of other soul aspects in us, which want to develop, but cannot due to us suppressing the desire due to “anxiety” or “fear” for example. We just never want get hurt again ever. But avoidance strategies often limit our freedom to a great extent and they can make us tense and we often cannot experience the present open hearted anymore. We literally suppress our own wish to grow other personality traits in us. We also do not deal or solve the conflict. These inner conflicts also show as energetic blockages, which disturb the coordination of cells in the body and can over a long run also lead to disease. (Something I come regular across with while conducting Therapeutic Magnetism Sessions.) Observe yourself. For example if you are about to act on an inspiration and suddenly something about it reminds you on a severe trauma from your past, you might feel a fear or emotional pain and you automatically want to close off, but in that you actually limit your freedom and perhaps even misjudge a situation. My own experience is that we cannot run away from conflicts. They will be presented to us again and the more quickly we ourselves deal with them, the easier they are to solve. In my book "The Manual for more Joy in life" I talk about it in many variations. Beneficial as a self help I find any type of Energy body method, for example EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) But here I will give you additional ideas. Often all what we feel is a tense feeling or fear and what can help yourself resolving the conflict is becoming aware what is actually bothering us. Here is an easy guideline for that. EXERCISE: 1. For relatively simple issues, what might be helpful is if you imagine the bothering aspect of your life like a painting. Internally paint everything what is "bothering" you currently about that aspect on the canvas. Or take a piece of paper and just draw the images which come up in relation to what is bothering you. Then little step by little step think about each aspect. Find your peace with each aspect on the painting and implement the learning into your life. Remember that we are here to learn and mature. A useful approach to do this exercise is if you ask yourself: “If this problem was a place in space and time, what would be the environment? What time of day would it be? What would be the weather? What kind of buildings would be in this place? What’s the vegetation? Where would you be in this place? Would there be someone else in this place? What happens in this place?” And so on. In clear text, you develop a story in this environment. See what happens…..You can do this in your mind, playing a story until a solution comes up. (These are questions derived from Project Sanctuary, a wonderful approach developed by Dr Silvia Hartmann, GEO) Jot down what comes up if you do this exercise:
Another helpful approach is adding EFT to it. Play the above story in your mind, or jot it down on paper and you focus on the image and your part in it and do the EFT procedure outlined in the Manual for more Joy in Life, Chapter 1 which you can download at http://www.virtuosity.net.au until the image and the experience you have yourself in this landscape changes into a more pleasant image and experience to the point there is a complete solution or insight that helps you further. In this case you tap EFT for the person (yourself which we call an Aspect) that is in the metaphor. So you tap on yourself but imagine you are at the same time tapping on the Aspect of you in the metaphor. You ask the Aspect of yourself how are you feeling and you use the words of your Aspect to make Set Ups for EFT Tapping. Make sure you come to the high positives on the Subjective Units of Experience scale. (Find a Subjective Units of Experience Scale in the first book of The Manual for more Joy in Life) This approach is extremely helpful. Give it a try and be surprised.
Exercise: 2. Another method is also that you ask yourself specific questions when focusing step by step on different areas of your life. This might be helpful if you feel a general uneasiness but do not know what it is all about. -Start with the "environment" you live in. Does it have to do that I am uneasy in myself? -Then focus on your "behaviours". Ask yourself the same question. Am I happy with my behaviours or do I need to change something? -Then focus on your "capabilities". Ask yourself the same question. Perhaps you find that you lack some capability and if this is so, think about ways how you can develop these capabilities. -Then focus on your "beliefs about the world and yourself and your values" in life. Is there something which might have to do with you feeling uneasy in yourself? Are you able to live your values? Do you feel you disregard your own or another person’s values? Did someone else perhaps violated your values? -Then go on asking about your sense of “Identity". Who am I? What sense of self do I have? Am I authentic or am I wearing a masque in some area of my life? -Then you might want to ask yourself if your feelings of unease have to do with your "mission or purpose" in life. Is something in this regard not clear to you or are you perhaps not living your purpose at all as you want to please someone for example? -Then focus on the spiritual aspect of your life. How is your connection to what is higher than you? How is your connection to the Greater Unity? Are you feeling in peace in this regard or not? This might give you the consciousness about why you feel unhappy about yourself or why you have a feeling of unease. This is a starting point for change. Jot down your conclusions about the exercise above:
If you found the clarity about what is bothering you, you might ask yourself following questions which can lead to a resolution of your problem. 1. What is your problem? 2. Where is your area of freedom? 3. List your choices within your area of freedom. 4. Which of the choices is the most meaningful to you? 5. What is your first step in the direction you have chosen? Also remember that if we open up for higher guidance or help from Above in prayer or meditation we can “receive” help if we are open for it. We are surrounded by help and light. Modern Quantum physics points to this fact too. If we close of to this help we cannot receive it. So open up in trust and ask for the Help you need. Please refer back to chapter 1 in the Manual for more Joy in Life. (Hours of Introspection) If you do not open for new possibilities nothing new can come in. It is important that we try to solve our conflicts and not just disregard them. Conflicts are one of the main reasons people are searching psychological help. What happens if the person resolved one conflict is something many people find strange and it often makes them surprised, as they find that if one conflict is solved, suddenly another perhaps forgotten conflict surfaces. We have to remember that also in human life as in nature there is always movement always transition from one developmental stage to the next. Usually there is only one major unresolved conflict active and other existing conflicts are usually pushed into the subconscious or simply dormant. This is a blessing for us as we would be otherwise literally “overwhelmed” if all existing conflicts in us would be active at the same time. If the one standing in the foreground is solved another one comes to the surface. Similar to the layer of an onion, apparently humans put on layers too in the frame of their history and they protect well from injuries, but they also hinder us in our scope of freedom and literally block us to enjoy life and to develop other possible personality aspects. So do not be discouraged when you solved one problem and you realize another problem comes up. If you keep on working on yourself you will in time also feel lighter and things will get easier for you. We also have to remember that sometimes these from us perceived “blockages” are blessings in disguise. Many of the greatest breakthroughs came through people experiencing a crisis. Other people who experience lots of obstacles and hindrances might have the opportunity to develop a lot of inner strength as they are constantly forced to exert themselves. Only in exertion can we grow stronger, the same as a muscle can gain strength only if constantly used. Exercise: Summarize your conclusions and gains of what you learned in this Blog. How can you integrate these conclusions into your practical day to day life? What area was of special interest to you?
Edeltraud Jakob Grace: Love all things natural and always have a craft or art project on. Being surrounded with friends and people I love and who love me, animals and nature makes me happy. Since 2004 I see clients in my private practice. In my blogs I want to share things that might be beneficial for others (YOU) and just areas that interest me a lot. Wish you happiness and health! Edel Pictures on this line are all from my animals or garden or photos I took from nearby where we live on beautiful Mornington Peninsula.
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