Suppression of the Soul
We nowadays enjoy a never before available technical progress. The life and work, so it seems, was never ever as easy as it is now. The human being is more and more relieved of heavy physical work and unpleasant jobs. That should be actually an ideal frame to become more happier! But the opposite is the case. More and more people suffer, especially in industrial countries, under depression and emotional crisis. So from illnesses, which are opposed to the longed for life joy and present a state of the soul which can be described as the opposite of happiness. Especially in our modern world, which is driven by lust fulfilment, satisfaction and fun, do we find the most depressions. Just in that part of the world in which most people are well off, can we find the most anxieties and worries.
It almost looks like as if a person has to struggle all the time to provide for the basics of life’s necessities; such a person is immune against the illnesses of the industrial countries. In poorer countries we hear seldom of depressions.
The picture should not be drawn here in black and white. It is not about to demonize technical progress or to misuse the serious illness of depression as a reason. That would be wrong and not wanted. More do I want to point out that material comfort does not necessarily make people happier.
20 % of Australians suffer from depression. More than 2500 Australians commit suicide each year. Depression is a serious illness and the treatment is even made harder as society sees people with depression as weak or the illness is not taken seriously by others. The sufferers hide their dis-ease as they fear to be stamped as a weakling or a loser. Here there is a change of thinking necessary in society which through understanding can open up an atmosphere of wakefulness, empathy and helpfulness. The help of medical practitioners and therapists is indispensable.
Whoever is reading this blog and suffers under depression, please search help under www.beyondblue.org.au or Lifeline (24 hours) on 13 11 14
(As a professional counsellor, life coach and energy therapist I will in my Blogs introduce and describe approaches which healthy people can use for themselves but also people with depression or other emotional illnesses might find helpful as an additional approach. Should you suffer under depression or any other psychological illness, please consult your medical or psychological advisor before trying anything that I suggest in this blog.)
The short joy of owning a Ferrari
Perhaps you know someone or you yourself are a person who believes that you came here into this world without even choosing to do so and now that you are here you believe that the world holds your happiness in form of the material experiences or products you can acquire and enjoy. Perhaps your focus is on financial security and material wealth. Although it is true that material wealth can lead to greater contentment research shows that material goods are only capable of offering us a sense of short term bliss.
Research shows that income is three to six times higher in the USA, Japan, Switzerland and Germany since the Second World War, but the sense of happiness of the people living in these countries stayed the same since this time. People in Latin America are much poorer but significantly happier. An increased income only leads to partial happiness. We most often do not remember the times when we had it worse but only the times when we had it good. We are quickly used to an improved situation and soon find it normal to have a higher material life standard.
The Swiss economist Bruno Frey from the University of Zurich got known through his contribution to the “economy of happiness”.
He said in an interview: “We know that materialists, who are focused on money, are less happy then idealists, who do not focus so much on their income. When the wealth grows a materialist is still not content, it is never enough!” Further he explains. “
Who purchased a Ferrari feels like in paradise—but unfortunately only at the first moment. After two weeks we find the Ferrari pretty normal. The feeling of happiness wears off. With a new friend or girlfriend this is different. The friendship can be experienced again and again as invigorating and enriching. (….) The stupid thing is only that we foresee it wrongly and overvalue the material… and let’s face it, how it is if we have a new car is much easier to imagine then how it will be if we meet a new person.”
The hope to get much happier when we win the lottery for example is really questionable. This hope also bears the danger that we oversee present opportunities for happiness due to the hoped for future happiness.
“Who only dreams about happiness should not wonder when he oversleeps it, “says the movie and theatre actor Ernst Deutsch.
Naturally are people more content if the wealth increases, but this has boundaries. The material wealth should not be overvalued in regards to the effect it has on our personal happiness. Inner balance and a soulful vigour have another medium in which they flourish in, than material unconcern.
Often does discontent lead to ambitions which promise more happiness. So do people undergo surgery in order to look younger and more beautiful and they believe and hope that they will through more beauty achieve more happiness. Here some people get misled through the ghost light “Everything is possible”. There are limitations which are for each person different. We can do a lot, and every single person has capabilities, possibilities and talents, but we often start at the wrong place and suffer shipwreck and find us again further away from happiness. Casting shows for pop stars or models on TV, which are often very awkward and embarrassing, show at the moment the last station to which these ghost lights lead to.
With discipline to more joy in life
We can actually do lots of physical things to increase our wellbeing and even initiate feelings of happiness. Brain research for example shows that movement in fresh air, enough sunlight or the right nourishment can release chemicals in the brain which we call happiness hormones.
So can we say in short that through a healthy way of living we can contribute to our own happiness?
For this we should not establish fixed rules in the sense of “Do this and leave that, then you will be happy!” How repulsive can it appear, if a person dogmatically postulates some nutritional supplement as an universal remedy or if one follows some sport like an addiction.
Nevertheless can we find that for many conditions which offer us a piece of joy, we can ourselves do something physically to achieve it. Enough movement and time in fresh air, a weight that makes us feel well, or some little “happiness”- like a glass of red wine at the evening, a stroll through the rain, a sunrise early in the morning, work in the garden etc. – can contribute to our own wellbeing, without us having to maintain a dogmatic program. Every person should make sure that he reserves time for things, which give him balance and support for his sense of happiness. But like here it is for everything. : One is not for all.
Reflect what gives you joy in life. Jot it down.
So simple as it sounds, is it not always in reality. The one person is prevented by an obstinate overweight to achieve his happiness, the other cannot get over his snugness to get over himself to go into the fresh air. Such hindrances are many. It shows that before many changes that could be achieved and which would lead to a happier and better life, we first have to overcome ourselves. So we have to do something which is uncomfortable and we have to pay the prize of short term discomfort during the time of overcoming ourselves. This is also something which we do not like and does not appeal to our perception of happiness: “What now I am asked to eat less? But I like to eat!” How many would like to let go of overeating or smoking, if it would not be so difficult to do so? But the necessary change does cost to overcome our own desires, we have to put in personal effort, a decision, and to be prepared to accept a short term discomfort in order to come one step forward in our life.
Could we say that prior to happiness we have to endure a time of renunciation, a time of overcoming and also have an insight about what we want to change and where we are having a problem at the moment? At least this would be a step towards the direction not to search reasons for our own unhappiness in the mistakes of other people anymore. Carl Zuckmayer said something similar: “Half of our life is luck, and the other half is discipline- and discipline is decisive as without discipline could we do nothing with our luck.”
The right priorities
The demands of society, job, or family are triggers for many to feel unhappy. One cannot meet all the demands, one does not know how to manage all the tasks and one asks himself how one can feel happy at all under such circumstances. One would really like to do what one likes to do. All the time these demands from others, so many obligations! Where is the escape?
Also here can we recognize that before a next step to more joy in life there has to be first an effort an overcoming of ourselves. To make order in life, to arrange and organize it, to act and not only to re-act….asks effort and this has for many people nothing in common with their idea of joy. They think that personal effort is just the opposite of joy.
Nevertheless nothing can bypass the need for order in our life, and the setting of the right priorities. Otherwise one will always run behind something, instead of improving something for himself. This is not only so in the professional area but also in regards to every other area of life. These “own” order will over time also have to change again, in order to be able to adapt to changing circumstances.
It is for sure a first good investment in our own life order to think about it in a calm hour, to become clear about what is important for you, how much time you want to use for it and in which sequence one want to devote himself to the task. We also need time available to check our own priorities again and again and possibly change them or to have time to think about our purpose in life and to be able to address challenges of one’s life.
In the book, “The seven habits of highly effective people” by Stephen R. Covey, we can find some help for this. Covey arranges in his time management matrix different activities into
Important- Urgent, Important-Not Urgent, Urgent-not important, not Urgent-Unimportant.
Important and urgent:
Time bound deadlines
Treatment of illness
Friend or family member needs help
Important but not urgent
To think about ones purpose in life spirituality
To develop plans and ideas
Formulate life goals
Recuperation and prevention
Reflection about the past and to learn from one’s mistake
Not important, but urgent
Some appointments in associations
Some phone calls
Some urgent affairs
Not important and not urgent
Some phone calls
If we look at the little overview one can recognize for himself quite well how often or how seldom one decides to put important things first. Perhaps are some things not enough fostered which would be important. Things which would be important for life’s happiness and well-being are not fostered as they seem not urgent enough to do them. We have to remember that we have in our personal life capacity only a certain amount of time and energy to our disposal. We do not have endless time or energy. If we focus first on the important and urgent things and get them done, then on the important and not urgent things and get them done, we usually still have some time left to do unimportant things. If we first do the unimportant things it can happen that we are not left with enough time and energy for the important things.
Get back to the little overview and become clear about, what is important for you, how much time you want to use for it and in which sequence you want to devote yourself to the tasks. Jot down your thoughts.
Some things do not make fun but give joy.
It is very important to give room to activities which are not urgent but important. In there lies a key to happiness. As who for example formulates purpose oriented life goals, has a great chance to also become happy.
Who then celebrates the first successes of his self-discipline, will experience happy and fulfilling moments. But moments of happiness can’t be detained, but want to be pursued again and again. Movement is a part of life, and we have to walk towards such moments, we have to do something in order to be able to experience them. “Happiness is cheaply acquired with tiredness and muscle ache” said Tolstoi. We have to become aware to not interchange fun with joy. If you go on a roller-coaster on a fair this might be fun, but it is no joy. If you write a book or work on a project it gives joy, but it might not always be fun. This means that even creative people might not always feel like doing something that belongs to their work. But if they have a talent to sit through feelings of reluctance, they will be rewarded with deep feelings of joy that impatient people never will be able to experience. Persistence is always an attribute of happier natures. To have a purposeful goal, to apply yourself to it and to exert yourself, to practice renunciation….this path leads to moments of happiness and to joyful experiences, which never would come towards us if we would not contribute something to it. Who has happiness as his only goal, gets into the danger that many disruptive factors affect his wellbeing. Who but takes Purpose as his goal, acquires the advantage and the opportunity to get happy, just as an additional fact.
Meaningful striving transmits energies, meaningless striving deprives someone of energy!
To find a meaningful life following questions could be helpful:
Am I clear about what meaning my life has?
What benefit do my fellow men have from what I do or not do?
What contribution do I perform with my life and work towards the public good?
What values carry and drive my striving?
Perhaps one will not succeed at once to answer such questions in regard to our direction and life goals in a satisfactory way. One might have to occupy oneself perhaps constantly and intensely with these themes. This means again effort and work! Work in regard to our self-discipline, the will for change and persistence. But in the first instance work, which serves our own happiness in life.
Rather be optimistic
Self-discipline and the will to change coupled with persistence---that is what characterizes an optimist. Optimists face a situation with the attitude: “I do not like that, so I will change it!” Pessimists in the opposite say: “I cannot do anything about it anyway!”
Latest research show that optimists differ mainly from pessimists in that they are active, and in that they work for what they want. They act in their environment and try to improve their life situations towards the better.
But this working, being active and to put effort in and the orientation towards new, better things is not a privilege from the optimists alone. Everyone can- if perhaps also with some effort, learn, adopt and acquire a more optimistic attitude in order to look more confident into the future. A basic help is thereby to have a clear image about one’s goal, as who does not know where he wants to go, might be possibly be okay of how his life is and this can lead him to remain inactive. (Further help and explanations about effective goal setting, and how we can help ourselves to become more optimistic, you will find in the coming chapters)
The right goals and their pursuit are decisive facts for an optimistic attitude and therefore also for the psychic wellbeing, whereas it is also important to know the “Why” one follows a goal and not alone “Which “goal one does pursue.
Suzanne C. Segerstorm, professor of Psychology, did intensive studies in regards to the connection between optimism and wellbeing and describes it in her book “ Optimisten leben anders”(Optimists live differently) which goals in regards to personal happiness are especially valuable. “In general are we the happiest, when we pursue goals, which help us to grow as human beings, to have meaningful relationships and contribute something worthwhile to society; we are less happy, when we pursue goals, which help us to be more attractive, richer, or popular or famous.”
Abd- Ru- Shin, the author of the book “In The Light of Truth- Grail Message”, speaks even from a duty of man, to choose the right goals: “It is man’s duty on earth to set him the highest attainable goal, and to strive for this goal with all the powers at his disposal. But as a human being! This excludes from the beginning that, like an animal, he should merely trouble himself about food and drink, as unfortunately, many men do; or let him be goaded by the intellect into striving only for worldly greatness or fame without keeping in view as the main purpose the general welfare and advancement of mankind. “
The own order in our life, own goals and priorities will also have an effect on the relationships to other people. Hereby is clearly to see how joy and happiness of each person is dependent on his relationships to his fellow men. Are you taken seriously by others? Do people like to see you? Are you respected and perhaps even loved and needed? And from what does this depend on? – In the end again from how much we invest into these relationships and into the public good! Can I expect to have joyful experiences, when I don’t do anything prior to it? Am I prepared, to have understanding for the mistakes and weaknesses of my fellow men, to listen to him and help him? Am I for the people whose appraisal I value, there, when they need me? The relationship account should be balanced through give and take, otherwise there is the danger very near and that one cannot experience a joyful togetherness.
Here again we see that before we can reap we first have to exert ourselves, overcome ourselves-- sow. If one shies away from the work, one cannot reap.
The idea of sowing and reaping is illustrated with the following poem:
Sow with a generous hand; Pause not for toil or pain;
Weary not through the heat of summer, Weary not through the cold spring rain;
But wait till the autumn comes For the sheaves of golden grain.
Scatter the seed, and fear not, A table will be spread;
What matter if you are too weary To eat your hard-earned bread: Sow, while the earth is broken, For the hungry must be fed.
Sow;--while the seeds are lying In the warm earth's bosom deep, And your warm tears fall upon it-- They will stir in their quiet sleep; And the green blades rise the quicker, Perchance, for the tears you weep.
Then sow;--for the hours are fleeting, And the seed must fall to-day; And care not what hands shall reap it, Or if you shall have passed away Before the waving corn-fields Shall gladden the sunny day.
Sow; and look onward, upward, Where the starry light appears-- Where, in spite of the coward's doubting, Or your own heart's trembling fears, You shall reap in joy the harvest You have sown to-day in tears.
Adelaide Anne Procter's poem: Sowing And Reaping
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall…….
Often do we find ourselves in competitiveness with others. One wants to be better, more beautiful, richer than others and the more he compares himself the more he discovers ever more people, who are assumed to be even better, even more beautiful and even more rich than oneself. The comparison with other people carries the seed of discontent and of unhappiness already in it. Thereby we will very seldom compare inner values —from which one could learn— but it is about superficialities, which most of the times awake even more greediness in us.
“Comparison is the end of all happiness and the beginning of discontent”, said the Danish philosopher Soren Kierkegaard (1813-1855).
We have to be careful when faced with an illusionary world, how some Medias show to us. Besides all the beauties and riches which are put into scene, some feel like a poor, ugly blighter. But wrongly- as he just has different qualities, which perhaps flower in secrecy. The idea expressed by the present days media illusory world, that every person can reach everything, if he so wants, is simply wrong, there are insurmountable differences in regards to us humans- in how we look, in the talents, in the leanings and in their capabilities-, which can’t be pushed to the side or changed. It only can make us unhappy, if we do not adapt to these realities and always look at other people, whom we find more beautiful or more talented.
Every person has in his character something that belongs to the whole and is absolutely necessary for the whole. Every person has gifts which are needed in his environment.
In order to be happy one has to first accept him the way one is. This also includes our life circumstances like health, job and place in society and so on. Based on this, one can build up on their own capabilities disregarding ‘mainstream’ ideas, fashion and what the spirit of the time suggests. Only on the base of the selfhood can one stand secure and achieve clarity and security. Otherwise will the personality stay in a romping place of foreign influences, standards and moods. “The peak of happiness is, when every person is ready to be who he is”, said Erasmus of Rotterdam (ca. 14651536)
Thinking is a matter of luck!
As important it is to reflect about one’s own capabilities and possibilities, it is also important for our own wellbeing to be watchful and to set healthy boundaries in regards to other humans. What effect do I have on other people? What triggers my behaviour, speaking and thinking in other people? What annoys me about other people and why does it disturb me? Is this or that person holding a mirror in front of me perhaps? Does one or the other behaviour perhaps disturb me so much as I have the same mistake?
Besides watchfulness it is also important to distance one-self from the moods and opinions of others. Here we find the colleagues who rant daily about the boss, the salary or the work circumstances, or there are the club members who have to beef something about everyone and everything, or the neighbour who complaints about everything and no one can make it right for him. One can ask oneself calmly following questions: “Does it do me good if I swim in the moods of others? Do I have to do it to myself to open myself for such a destructive atmosphere? Is this my own opinion? Are these also my own judgments the other person expresses? Or should I set boundaries in this or that situation, in order to stay detached from uninvited thoughts and ideas?
Also from ourselves do we do not have to accept every nonsense. We do not have to follow every mood or fluctuation which arises in us. We do not need to enmesh ourselves forcefully into pondering- but we can some time and over time more and more times- decide internally to focus our thoughts on something different, on something uplifting or something worthwhile which we can develop with the help of our thoughts. Pondering-a lot about yourself - keeps many people in a burdensome heaviness of the mind. One ponders about the past, missed opportunities, about mistakes or other things and nourishes thoughts which literally can beset a person’s mind. Unhealthy pondering is the enemy of joy.
Naturally is it important to think about mistakes in order to learn from them. But one does not have to fall into unhealthy pondering. The right way is to fresh and freely and with confidence look forward and to have the serious intention that what has led to the mistake, to change for the better. And even if you fall again, get up again and have a joyful decision to move on and try again!
Even if you are not in such a good mood, or if something really suppresses you, one can decide: Today do I want to make something of the day, I will try to be cheerful and calm; and I will give something to others, be it a smile or some uplifting encouragement; or a friendly glance. With such intention will we focus our thinking away from us to someone else- and this already helps to overcome the unpleasant emotional state. And if it does not work so well, then you still can stick to it: Tomorrow is a different day, I will try it again, I do not give up, not today, not tomorrow and on no other day!
Who falls occasionally on his path to personal happiness, should be like a child who learns to walk: Just get up again!
“Happiness is dependent on the nature of your thoughts!” knew already the roman emperor Marc Aurel (121-180). With the nature of our thinking we do create the prerequisite of our life happiness. Or shortly expressed: Thinking is a matter of happiness!
With friend and enemy to happiness
Not that what happens to us is decisive, but in the first instance how we cope with it, how we re-act. So can someone again and again make us crazy and we react again and again in the same way- emotional, with rage and anger-, and every time our own joy disappears, we are left without it. But could we not also react differently? Could we not leave our own path which we have since so long made wide and deep, just for a moment? Sure- it does cost effort and energy, to change our thinking and to act differently. But we always have to invest into relationships. Not only in regards to the relationships with friends, but also with people we do not like so much.
We think about payback and revenge, if someone used us; we want the just punishment, if someone treated us unjustly we tend to feel hate, if someone hurt us- we cannot find peace in our thoughts, no joy and no happiness. These things burden our mind and make our heart heavy and leave no room for liberation.
But where could we find this liberation?
“Father forgive us our trespasses as we forgive them that trespasses against us!”
In forgetting, in forgiving lies indeed liberation, but in forgiving lies also the most difficult investment in the human togetherness we can have. Connected with this step lies the big decision to overcome ourselves. It starts with the intention: I will try, even if it is incredible difficult! Perhaps it is helpful to put ourselves into the position of the other person as if we ourselves would need the forgiveness for our own wrong doing in order to be freed from a heavy guilt.
To pardon and forgive is a great challenge which asks a lot. Perhaps is the help in a prayer for power and aid needed in order to be able to follow such a path and to forgive another. Who always bears enmity so always bears something, carries a heavy load on his shoulders. The path to forgiveness is the path to liberation and to freedom from rage and pain and hate which push heavy on our mind, but now we can free this place again and give room to calmness and joy.
The association with our friends also demands great alertness and attentiveness. Often do we treat the people who like us, even love us, in a way as if they are supposed to forgive us everything. We are busy to take from the relationship account from this or that friend- and are not aware enough to deposit something from our side.
This imbalance is often the reason, why true friendships develop so seldom and are so difficult to build up and maintain. Prior to taking should always lie the giving: Trust, help, care. Also and especially then, if it is hard for us, if it does not fit into our own time plan or hinders us from our own amenities, but it is worth to invest into that. To have true friends is one of the greatest assets of happiness which we can have in our life. People who are there for us, when we need them, who also love us if they know our mistakes, who tell us what we should change, who support us, if we are going through a tough time in our lives or feel unwell. Who goes through heavy, burdening life situations and has only one true friend who he knows beside him, on whose advice and help, comfort and consolation he can count on, will be better prepared to cope with difficult circumstances and overcome them, then someone who has no one he can trust.
Think on the relationships you have in your life. How can you foster them more?
The dimensions of happiness
Happiness is not only a concept from our daily life, but also a central theme in philosophy and in religion. To this also belongs that we not only react to the circumstances in our life, but to change these circumstances through our own actions. In that it is not about to search happiness in material riches or earthly power but it is about the constant happiness through insight, recognition and wisdom, this means to grasp God’s Will and to follow it.
Plato described 400 AC three dimensions of happiness:
1. The relationship to the Divine, 2. The happiness of being human 3. The happiness through social interactions. Two of these dimensions focus away from the person towards something else; one towards the Creator, to GOD, the other towards the fellow men. Only one of Plato’s described happiness dimension focuses on the personal self. And also Aristoteles said: “The ideal human feels joy, when he can be of service to another person.”
If we ask ourselves or other people what happiness means, the answer will be mostly connected to certain circumstances. Wealth, health, popularity, influence and so on-and with the wish to have all this. Only when people think further will they state functioning relationships, friendships, a happy marriage, a good relationship to colleagues and other things. And only last comes the spiritual path, the finding of a life purpose or even a personal focus on GOD as a fact for happiness.
Let’s first have a deeper view on the facets of happiness which have to do with our personal self: Wealth, health, popularity…..And? Should this be all? How about the deeper sight into oneself, personal emotional wellbeing, trust in oneself, inner security, freedom of thought, inner balance, confidence, self-esteem? Are this not also building blocks in the fundament of our own peace of mind? And is in the missing of these things not also the key why so many people are depressed and unhappy?
If a person’s ambitions only focus on the visible material world, it is no wonder, that they experience a deep inner emptiness and darkness, which gives emotional pain.
We are not prepared with such a one sided material focus to cope with fateful experiences, which all of a sudden shake our weak and fragile soul protection. Often little changes in our used to and cherished way of life are enough to throw us from our life path. We are not capable to build up the necessary opposite pressure in difficult life situations. This is the more difficult the thinner our social network is. If we have not invested enough into the relationships with other people, then we will miss the support and help in crisis situations, what makes it then so much more difficult to gain something of worth out of these situations. Science speaks from the possibility of the “posttraumatic growth”, so to become stronger through going through the crisis, which can be supported by the care and friendship of others. A problem shared is a problem halved.
Also do we often believe that happiness and joy is a matter of luck and comes to us arbitrarily. We are living in waiting or in a state of expectation and with that in a tragic misunderstanding. As we have to move towards happiness and joy, we have to shout into the forest, so that something joyful can shout back. If we wish happiness and joy we have to do something for it! Even modern science acknowledges our contribution to our own happiness.
Ongoing happiness can only be found through fulfilling a purpose in life. The philosopher Wilhelm Schmid says it like that: “Happiness is not the most important thing in life, but the question about the meaning of life is the most important thing in life!”
The present happiness research approaches the search for meaning only vaguely. Meaning can only be found in the soul and in the spiritual areas, in the interpersonal connections- or also in own life or goal choices.
One thing is clear for many authors and that is that we can do something to achieve happiness and to grasp the meaning of our life.
Happiness is lawfully anchored.
The fact that we can do something for our happiness means: We have to move, if we want to change something, or do something for our happiness, if we want to reach more life quality and more joy in life.
Let’s take as an example a conscious focusing at the beginning of the day: Today I will do something good with the day; I will give others a smile, I will finish a certain work etc. With such conscious decisions and – most importantly- with the consequent implementation of the intention, do we set something new into motion. A new chain reaction, as every decision opens possibilities for new advances in the new direction. We will not succeed in every new plan at once, but if we constantly try, then will we be also able to succeed in difficult things. So can new decisions string together and support an up building development.
With every decision- be it in profession, in the family or in any other life circumstance- do we start an action, an activity and a reaction, which arouse a retroaction. A simple example: If we treat other people who meet us friendly and courteous will also the mood be friendly towards us. If we sow friendliness we will reap friendliness. And the more consequent we are in that, the more intense will we be surrounded by friendliness. This applies to all areas of our life, as it is about a law of nature, the law of reciprocal action. How you shout into the forest this is how it shouts back. (and modern quantum physics supports this idea scientifically.)
With every movement, every action there comes a re-action. Therefore without movement we will not achieve a reward. But with diligence we truly can reap happiness. This lawfulness applies always even if we do not know or realize it, if we let ourselves go, if we are unfriendly or lazy we will always get the reactions in accordance with the same. Same creates same. And with this we touched another law, and this is the attraction of the homogenous species. Who is friendly and open towards others is welcomed to be around and people like to talk to him, he appears attractive. The crabber in the opposite appears repulsive.
Many will know this situation. The diligent, friendly and accessible colleague at the workplace will be gladly integrated into work groups, he supports and encourages the working atmosphere and works goal-oriented with like-minded.
Especially the feedback from our fellow men, family members and work colleagues shows, how much -and with that our wellbeing- we have under control. Friendliness and helpfulness will also be shown to us, if we have lived them ourselves. But we should not expect of others that they share our path; there will be always people, which are not yet clear about the laws of happiness and who are for example unrestrained and selfish. Also are we asked to be lenient towards others, - also something which we can cultivate and develop.
When we give friendliness and trust and reap it from others, this will be without doubt delight us and make us feel jovial. We will feel light in our heart, we feel elated, we feel joy of life and are happy. These illuminative and relieving emotional states are in opposite to gloominess, which makes our heart heavy and depresses our mood.
Unburdened or oppressed- with these concepts we touch another law, namely the law of gravity, which also not only works in the physical world but can also be felt in the psychic-spiritual very clearly.
The law of reciprocal action, the attraction of homogenous species and the law of gravity determine our internal well-being. You could say in reality that the joy of life is anchored in lawfulness. From us people emanate constantly movements: We constantly want something, we constantly think on something, say a lot, do a lot- or also fail to so something….and we are surprised if life bestows us with happiness or adversity. Decisive would be, to recognize the connection between all our deeds and the homogenous retroaction, to anticipate the lawfulness which governs life and is woven into everything. As in that lies the key to lasting happiness and joy in life.
It is simply about us working on a fundamental tone in our life, which is fed by confidence and trust- out of the knowledge which we can gain from the understanding and observance of the laws of life and with using them we can work on happiness and joy step by step, whereas lack of knowledge leads further away from happiness.
Not understanding (lack of knowledge) about the lawfulness in life leads to: Resignation, helplessness and ignorance.
Understanding (knowledge) of the lawfulness in life leads to: Awareness, trust, security.
Especially uplifting it is to recognize the meaning of life- in the little connections but also in the big things and the big whole. And it is frustrating, to not be able to understand the meaning. This happened to us already at school, when we for example tried to learn a language and did not get the meaning.
Thus we have to learn the language that life uses in order to talk to us, or differently expressed, to recognize the laws of the Creation and with that to recognize the builder of Creation, God.
In the book “In the Light of Truth- Grail Message” from Abd-Ru-Shin we read: “You earthmen are in this Creation to find supreme happiness! In the Living Language which God speaks to you! And to understand this Language, to learn it, and to sense inwardly the Will of God in it, that is your goal during your journey through Creation. In Creation itself, to which you belong, lies the explanation of the purpose of your existence, and at the same time also the recognition of your goal! In no other way can you find either. This demands of you that you live Creation. But you are only able to live or experience it when you really know it. “
With the described lawfulness should we count every instant? We can’t avoid them, stop them or adjust them to our desires. For this reason we should recognize their mode of action and use them in order to reap joy of life, happiness and blessing.
The fairy-tale idea of happiness, the belief that there is something that makes us all of a sudden and forever happy can lead to disappointment! A happy life does not develop through a dramatic incident, but it comes step by step, through our own activity, from one event to the next, through experiences and conscious decisions. Everyone is the master of his fate! We are happy, when we draw significance and joy from our experiences, when we spend time together with people we love, learn something new or if we for example work on a certain project, so if we do something meaningful. The more days are affected by such experiences as well as if we experience progress in the search for meaning and advancement in our psychic-spiritual perfection, the happier we are.
First and foremost am I convinced that the path to happiness only is accessible through the knowledge of the laws in Creation. Therefore I want to end this post with a quotation from the book “In the Light of Truth”, which just supports this aspect and from which I have drawn the conditions for my personal happiness in life and whose accuracy I experience every day anew. “Happiness is much easier to achieve than many think! But it is first necessary for mankind to know the laws which rest in Creation. If they live accordingly then they must become happy.”
Jot down your thoughts about this blog. What was important for you? Will you integrate something into your life?
Source (Adapted from Martin Schott's article. "Lebensfreude". With permission Translated and adapted by Edeltraud Grace)
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